i was reading the sunday paper today and in the entertainment/gossip section they have like a what's hot and what's not~ section where they list good and bad things. one of the 'bad things' was rihanna getting back together with chris brown, saying she should 'have some self respect'.
uh, what? sounds like a nasty dump of victim blaming to me. i'm sick of people spewing rubbish about domestic violence when they clearly don't know the first thing about it. if their relationship has reached the point of physical abuse then there's probably been emotional abuse going on for a long time before that. chris brown has probably manipulated her to the point that she either thinks she deserves how he treats her, believes that he can change, or is too scared to dare leave him. abusers don't tend to wake up one day and start beating their significant other. abuse usually starts out subtle, spending all their time together, alienating the other person from their friends, being over-protective and obsessive out of 'love' (edward cullen, anybody?). by the time punches are thrown, the other person has been worn down to a psychological nub. did rihanna make the right decision by staying with chris brown? no. is it her fault that she made the wrong decision? no.
the LAST thing that any woman in that situation needs is to hear that she's stupid for staying with him, or criticism about the choices she's made. it is not her fault; it is never the victims fault.
on average, a woman is assaulted 35 times before she reports it to the police. if that says anything, it says that a) this has most likely happened to rihanna before and b) it's hard as fuck to get out of an abusive situation.
it's pretty funny how rihanna's decision to stay with chris was more deserving of being on that list than chris's actual assault on her. fuck that noise.
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